Friday, 2 March 2018

A Note to My Son

Dear Peanut,

It's been 15 months since your notorious prison break from the womb. You decided to exit the womb before your time was up. Since the 2nd of December 2016, we have only spent 1 day apart from each other. And that was only because the nurses decided I needed to recover from the C-Section and the general anaesthetic.

Since that day, it has been a wild ride. The first 2 weeks of your life were as dramatic as your entrance. You were hooked up to so many machines because you couldn't breathe on your own. The day your oxygen supply was shut off by your paediatrician was one of the most memorable of my life. A few days after that day, you were moved to the open cots, and I finally got to take you home when you were 2 weeks old.

We have had so much fun together, and so many tears. There was a day you refused to be dressed after your morning wipedown because you wanted your milk first. You were a month old by then, and that's when I knew the name Liam was appropriate since you were such a strong-willed little warrior. You won't remember this, but when you were almost 2 months old, you went to your grandmother's house for a short visit, before we went to stay with your dad at his place in Beitbridge. We had a lot of fun, as we got used to doing everything on our own without any help from your other grandmother.

You also used to have horrid nightmares after your 6 weeks vaccinaton. You would scream, and scream even when I held your little body. But you also had happy dreams. Some of my favourite memories of us include you sleeping in my arms, and I hear you laughing in your sleep. That was when I knew you were secure in your parents' love.

You will laugh to hear this, but I used to be worried when you got to 8 months without any teeth. Then you got serious about growing your teeth. Now you have 8 teeth, and you look like you are about to grow some more. You also worried you paediatrician when you got to 6 months and you were not yet babbling like other babies. She actually tested your hearing, worried that you were deaf. Sadly, the fact that you grew so quickly makes us forget that we should adjust your age, and treat you as you should be if you had been born on your actual due date.

I look forward to coming home every evening, because you run to greet me. You are upset when I sit on the couch, so I sit on the floor, and you use me as a jungle gym. We have so much fun each night that you do not want to go to bed. But little boys need their sleep, so they can become big boys.

You know this, but I will keep say it; I love you my first born.



Thursday, 1 March 2018

New Month, New Posts

Hello March!!!!!

But where did February go? I can't believe we have already started the third month of 2018. I am sorry to have been away for these past 2 weeks, but life happened so much I barely had time to breathe. Anyway, I am back this month with more posts. Here's what you can expect from me in terms of posts:

-  Night time weaning a toddler
-  Intermittent fasting as a weight loss tool
-  How I look after my hair while it is in braids
-  Getting married at a magistrates court in Zimbabwe
-  Making a long distance marriage work

As you can see, I only have one hair post slotted for this month. This is mainly because I am not doing much to my hair ever since I got my braids, so I am not feeling very inspired to post hair stuff. I have also been wanting to widen my blogging horizon, and I feel this is the time to do so.

Have a great and blessed new month.

Wednesday, 14 February 2018

Hair Update - Protective Style Install

I finally got my hair done by someone else this weekend. It was a struggle though getting my hair done. Here's what happened...

*Backstory time*
I had booked an appointment at Kinky Curly using the Whatsapp platform for Saturday after 1pm. I had planned to get "The Lot" so I had no need to wash my hair earlier. I finished work at 12.30 and raced over to Mt Pleasant in the rain. Only to get there and be told I hadn't been booked. I was as mad when I heard that. To her credit, the girl in the salon offered to do my hair after she had finished the two clients who were there. I refused as I did not want to spend my few weekend hours sitting around at a salon waiting to get my hair done. So I ended up going to buy henna. I mixed about 100g of henna with lemon juice, castor oil, tea tree oil, honey and water until it formed a thick paste. I left it to sit for 2 hours to let the colour release

Wash Day
1. I first braided my hair into box braids so that I could reduce the tangling while washing.

2. Then I shampooed three times using Palmer's Conditioning Shampoo, which is sulfate free.

3. After shampooing, I slathered henna onto my box braids, covered it with a plastic bag and let it marinate for 2 hours.

4. After the two hours were up, i rinsed out the henna. In hidnsight, the box braids were a bad idea as I did not manage to fully rinse out the henna.

5. I conditioned using the Hask Macadamia Oil hydrating deep conditioner. It brought moisture back into my strands so fast, I didn't even keep it on for the recommended 10 minutes.

6. I rinsed out the conditoner and t-shirt dried my box braids for an hour. I then applied my leave in (Dark and Lovely Au Naturel moisturising butter) and sealed with my shea butter mix before threading each section.

7. The next day, I got my hair braided. As you can see, my hair took the henna nicely, as it has a brownish tint. Hopefully, it will deepen into a red with repeated henna applications.

I am going to keep these braids for about two or so months, and take them down then. Hopefully, I will retain length.

Tuesday, 30 January 2018

Patience & Consistency - The Key to Growing Hair long

The most common question asked by people trying to grow their hair longer is "How can I make my hair grow faster?"

Unfortunately, hair growth rates are predetermined by genes. Most ''miracle" growth aides are just a clever way used by marketers to get your hard earned cash. The only things that help one to get real length is patience and consistency.

I'm sorry if I bummed you out, but that's the honest truth. I have been on a healthy hair journey for the past 6 years, and it is only when I have been consistent with my regimen, I have managed to retain length and get longer hair.

For example, when I was younger, my hair never got longer than my shoulders because I was never consistent with my hair care. But when I started being consistent with my hair care in 2013, my hair grew from neck length to armpit length in one year. When I stopped focusing on hair care after having my son, I stayed at armpit length for that year, because I was constantly trimming off damage and my hair kept breaking off.

What you want to do in order to gain length is to retain every single millimeter that grows out of your scalp. That's why you hear all of us talking about deep conditioning, moisturizing and sealing, finger detangling, handling hair in sections. We do all this so that we do not lose length to breakage or split ends.

In conclusion, there is no magic potion that instantly grows your hair from your neck down to your booty overnight. Its all about patience and hard work, especially if you have kinky coily hair. Don't get conned ladies.

Tuesday, 16 January 2018

A Hair Break Through

I had been having issues lately with dry roots, and blamed it on hard water. But this weekend, I had a wash day that took my hair from dry to super moisturized. Here's how I did it...

1. I shampooed my hair using Palmers Coconut Oil Conditioning shampoo. I only shampooed my hair once. This got rid of last week's shea butter and started my hair on a new slate this week.

2. I deep conditioned overnight using my longtime Holy Grail conditioner, ORS Replenishing Conditioner.

3. I rinsed out my hair the following morning and wrapped my hair in an old t-shirt to absorb the excess moisture.

I then bunned my hair in a hurry as I was late for work.

4. After work, I took down the bun, moisturized my hair using Dax Black Hair Grower, and sealed with my shea butter mix before detangling and doing African Threading.

All this was done on Saturday. Today is Tuesday and I have not had to remoisturise my hair. I think I will keep doing this to see if my hair benefits. The only change I will make is to wash my hair in braids so that I won't have excessive tangling. My hair is now too long to wash while its loose.