Saturday, 13 May 2017

It's My Number! Stop bothering Me!

I had to give myself a few days to cool down before venting online. By the way, hello loyal reader :)

Since the advent of WhatsApp and social media, its now really easy for random people to approach you in your DM especially if you're female. This happened to me a few days ago when a guy from the same small town as me decided to drop into my inbox.

Since I really don't know this individual, I did not have his number saved in my contacts. Here's a basic transcript of the thread (but lots of things are left out):

Unknown person: Sup

Me: Hi. I don't think I Know you, please tell me your name (because I'm now a little grown up, I'm slightly less petty and savage these days)

Unknown Person: says name, and where his from when I prompt him

Me: Oh ok

Unknown Person: U oky (as most people who know me IRL I really hate such messaging)

Me: I'm good. You?

Unknown Person: Not gud

Me: ok (because I don't really care in all honesty)

Unknown Person: (translated to English) Where do you stay

Me: Where did you get my number? (because I'm not giving that information to someone I don't know)

Unknown Person: Facebook (which I know is a lie because I have strong privacy settings)

Me: Ok since you are lying please get away from my inbox

Unknown person: starts blowing up my phone because I'm not responding


Besides being married and being a mother, I honestly do not have time for games anymore. And I do have the right to decide who I want to be in contact with. Why do certain individuals do not take no for an answer and quietly go back to whichever hole they crawled out from? Just because we used to live in the same town doesn't mean I should take time out of my life and start an inane conversation with you just because you are lonely.

Dear readers, has this ever happened to you? What was your response?

Sunday, 30 April 2017

Being a Preemie Mum

Honestly, I never expected my pregnancy to end the way it did. I had expected to go the full 9 months, go through labour and deliver my baby ''naturally''. My pregnancy wasn't the easiest, but I expected it to go the usual way.

Instead, one Wednesday morning on my way to work, I fainted. Luckily, my cousin had given me a ride to work, so I was in a safe environment. I ended up going to my gynaecologist since I knew some episodes were quite unusual. The gynaecologist was worried that it was pre-eclampsia, so she had me admitted into hospital for a number of tests.

I was cleared from pre-eclampsia, but diagnosed with gestational diabetes. When I told my husband he was worried. He was at work, 600km away from where I was in hospital. Even though I tried to reassure him, he took a week off from work and drove home so he could be with me. Which actually turned out great, because two days after my admission my gynaecologist decided to do a caesarian section on me because of ''reduced fetal movement and gestational diabetes'' (I am quoting from my son's hospital records). So on the 2nd of December 2016, sometime after 7am (not sure as I was under general anaesthesia), my son was delivered at 33 weeks gestation.

His lungs were severely immature, so he was admitted into NICU immediately after delivery. He was placed in an incubator, and was on oxygen. I wasn't allowed to see him for the first 24 hours since I was extremely groggy from all the drugs.

The first time I saw the little human who had spent 7 months living rent free in my womb was scary. Yes, I immediately fell in love but his chest was sunk in because his air sacs in his lungs hadn't inflated when he first cried because his lungs were pretty immature. He was connected onto a lot of tubes, lots of monitors where beeping and flashing. I didn't know what was wrong or if he would recover. I would go to the NICU and try to express breastmilk for his feeds. I was so stressed and worried I ended up crying. The worst part was being in a ward with mothers who had their healthy babies with them and listen to them bond. I was depressed during the first week. I remember breaking down during one visiting hour, as my family finally confirmed my worst fears. But I knew I had to stay strong for the little person lying in an incubator who was depending on me for his food and affection. His health started turning around at that point. When he started pulling out his nasal feeding tube, the NICU nurses told me he was going to be fine.

One thing about babies, they are so resilient. After a week on oxygen, his oxygen was turned off and from that point, everything happened fast. He was moved out of his incubator 3 days after that into the open cots. All the NICU moms knew that once your baby was moved to the cots you were going to go home with your baby soon. The day after he moved into a cot, I got to breastfeed him for the first time. And I took him home on the following day.

Since his discharge, my boy has been growing fast. From a birth weight 2.37kg he had tripled his weight by his 14 week vaccination. He may be a bit behind in hitting his milestones but I always remind himself he's 7 weeks younger than other babies his age in terms of development. This helps me to keep everything on perspective. I also make sure before I introduce any dietary changes I consult his paediatrician.

My son is my pride and joy. He is one of my reasons for getting up each morning. And I know I'm his favourite person as he always lights up when I see him, especially when I get home from work. I am thankful for all the people who have helped us since he was born.

Tuesday, 4 April 2017

Too Many "I'm Back'' Posts? Life and Hair Update

Hi guys...

I don't know if you still remember me. My name is Yvette, and I'm the blogger here at Hard Mashona Hair. I haven't been able to regularly blog since August 2015, but I hope things are about to change for the better.

So what's been happening in my life? Well, 2016 was  a crazy year for me. I got pregnant, married, and had my baby within the space of 7 months. Wild, right? My son was born 7 weeks early so he stayed in NICU for a while until he could breathe on his own. After that, I have spent the past 3 odd months in a blur of diaper changing, feeding, sleepless nights, vaccinations, and lots of baby cuddles. I also recently went back to work and had to complete my dissertation so I can fulfil my graduate trainee requirements. I am trying to work on losing the baby weight I had gained, so I'm frequently at the gym too. It's a busy whirlwind, but I wouldn't change a thing in my life or schedule.

Hairwise, what can I say, I have recently self-diagnosed as an individual with a short hair attention span. I took out my locs from the last post, probably due to pregnancy hormones. I have spent the past 4 months in weaves, and braids but I'm back to rocking my hair with all the crazy undergrowth of natural hair that's lurking under my texlaxed hair. Since I'm experiencing some postpartum shedding, I decided to stop protective styling as my hair was getting matted up under the weave in 2 or 3 weeks. I'm really not doing much, except co-wash, moisturize and seal. And of course wear my satin scarf to bed.

That's a brief update into what's been happening with me, tell me what have you been up to?

Monday, 12 September 2016

Finally Back - Big Hair Update

Its been ages since I last blogged. My bad!!!

I haven't been feeling well for the past few months, and work had gotten to me. But nothing can keep a good girl down for too long.

Anyway, first up... I have changed my hair (again). I know most of my readers are thinking this woman has hair ADHD, but I have been seriously thinking about this for a while. I just got my hair loc'ed. On Saturday 10 September 2016, I took the big step and finally got my hair loc'ed.

*Brief flashback/back story*
Over the past few months when I wasn't feeling too good, haircare had fallen by the wayside. I was barely washing and DC'ing my hair, and my hair paid for it. I had breakage, and I wasn't retaining much. This is what led me to seriously consider getting dreadlocks

*end of flashback*
So I consulted my mum's stylist. She has been doing my mum's locs since 2014. She said she could start locs in my hair, only I would have to have some of the ends cut off. I agreed to it, and made an appointment for Saturday.

On Saturday, I walked into the salon at midday, and was immediately taken off for a shampoo session. I had prepooed my hair with coconut oil (old hair habits die hard), and bunned before going to the salon. The shampoo lady immediately said my hair was extra oily (which was the point). She used a sulfate shampoo to wash my hair thrice. But her washing technique caused a huge knot in my extra thick front area. When the stylist was detangling, she couldn't detangle that area, so I went in with my fingers and unravelled the knot.

The stylist trimmed off about 4'' of hair. I wept a little seeing all those months of patience and hard work get snipped off in seconds but I knew it had to happen. She loc'ed my hair using the comb coil method as well as a product mix (that I forgot to ask about). All I know for certain is it wasn't beeswax. After loc'ing, I was put under a dryer to set the product into my hair. All in all, it look less than 2 hours for the entire process. I am to go back after 2 weeks for a wash and retwist.

So Hard Mashona Type is now a loc'ed head blog. I won't stop posting about haircare techniques that I discover, though I can't try out most of them (although I won't be posting as often due to a reason I will soon share). However, I do hope to represent for the dozens of loc'ed ladies (including my own mama and big sis) who inspired me to take this road less travelled.

I hope you won't stop reading ecause I switched gears. Show some dreadlock love :)

Here are pics of my hair from the past few months

Box braids - using own hair


Weaved up 

Low bun

Box braids take 2

Bun take 2

Trying to goddess braid

high bun - day before getting loc'ed

starter locs as at 10/9/16

Tuesday, 29 March 2016

Hair Regrowth Regimen Wash Day

Remember my last post? I was talking about my new regimen. I have been putting it action for over a week now, but here's what a wash day looks like for me now...

Monday Morning

  1. Shampoo my scalp and ends using ORS Creamy Aloe shampoo. Rinse out shampoo using cold water
  2. Deep condition using the DArk and Lovely Cholesterol Treatment for 5-7 minutes. I know it has some HHJ no-nos like mineral oil, but I love the slip and its very easy to find here. Rinse out using cold water
  3. Wrap my hair in a t-shirt to absorb the excess moisture
  4. Massage scalp using T444Z and also use it to seal my ends
  5. Airdry hair in a damp bun or mini box braids

Friday Morning

  1. Co-wash my hair and scalp using whichever cheap instant conditioner that's on hand. Currently its Organics conditioner for normal hair. Rinse out using cold water
  2. Wrap hair in a t-shirt to absorb excess moisture
  3. Massage scalp using T444Z and also use it as a sealant
  4. Damp bun and go!


My hair and scalp seem to be seriously loving this regimen. I will do an update after a month or so to see if there are visible results in terms of length retention.

Right now my hair is in mini box braids which I did myself. No hair from other sources was used to create this style. I decided to do bx braids when I got tired of finger detangling. I also think that this style will be good for the gym too. And its easy for me to still keep up with my regimen this way.

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